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A woman I was once involved with called this weekend saying she wanted to see me. We hadn't been speaking for several months and  about a month ago made contact with me to make amends. She said she changed and wanted to start new and wanted to be honest about everything from now on.  I had asked her out for drinks about that time so we could talk things out but she never responded. Because of the lack of response I felt something wasn't quite right still. Then suddenly, this past Friday and Saturday I  received several text msgs stating that she really wants to see me, she said she was listening to our song and couldn't wait to hug me and that she had so much to tell me. She offered to drive over and park in my buildings parking lot so she could see me if that was all the time I could spare. I politely declined. Mainly because I realized her other half was out of town for the holiday and that seemed to be the only reason she wanted to see me. No, she did not mention her other half was out of town but I did a little research and found out she was visiting her family in Washington for the holidays.   A little background is needed to completely understand my questions. We were involved for a very short time and in that time she lied about an ex who became a current once we broke up. She asked me to live with her and then started an argument the night I agreed. The offer was then not an option again. She became involved with her ex and completely blew off our friendship. Over the next few months she would call every now and then & ask to see me. Each time she would be sure to say she left her ex and missed me terribly. By the next day she was back with her ex and again not speaking to me. Finally last October she left the ex and we did in fact resume our friendship. Things started getting a little odd when she would try to kiss me and ask me to sleep over and yes I did give in and accepted her kisses. Then a month later she met someone new . By December she had asked this person to move in but lied to me and said she wasn't interested in the new person. That Shawn, the new person was getting on her nerves. That she couldn't stand the possessiveness and that Shawn was acting strange.  She had no idea I knew the truth. I called her on it and she denied it until Shawn moved from Arizona to California and in with her. She has lied to everyone that knew of me through her including Shawn, who I happened to introduce to her one night at a bar we frequented.  Everyone believes her to be this fantastic, kind, generous and fun person but she is a lying, manipulative person toward me.  I found out I had cancer last December and wanted to talk to her about everything that was happening with me. She was my friend and I needed outside advice and just an ear to listen. Nothing, she never even asked how I was or what was happening. When we were together she said awful things about her ex. She made it seem as though the ex was insane. She said that the ex did and said crazy and sometimes hurtful things.  I believed every word and when I did doubt I let things go because I just loved being around her. Then when she went back to the ex she started talking about me the way she did about the ex. People I knew through her think I am this awful crazy person and I haven't done a thing. I didn't know she was saying these things until I put two and two together just a few months ago. She didn't want to see me when she is with anyone that knew me when we were dating or her current love interest. One night in March she asked to see me, then text me back and said Shawn didn't think it was a good idea. text me again asking me to meet her anyway & finally the last text said she told Shawn she was going out with her friend Michelle, that Michelle would be there and to act surprised to see them both. I showed up just to see what the hell was really going on and sure enough Michelle was upset I was there. Wouldn't speak to me at first then pulled me aside and yelled at me for everything I had supposedly done or said to her friend.  When we were together she started calling me while I was working, I worked nights 10pm -6am. I would stop by for breakfast after work every morning. I was a district manager for an inventory company. I had 125 people depending on my decisions and didn't have time for chit chat. If I couldn't answer  she would accuse me of cheating, say she was locking her door and to never contact her again. Finally, I broke down one night in the middle of an inventory and we argued. I tried to not lose my temper but age jeopardized my job. My boss was there on a surprise visit and I lost my job. I was pissed but I realized it was my fault I took the call. She apologized and begged me to forgive her and my dumb ass did. Being around her made me happy and that was all I wanted at the time. I knew it wasn't healthy but I couldn't resist at the time.  Oh yeah, and to make matters worse, while all this was happening she was the manager of the apartment complex I lived in at the time. I have since moved and couldn't be happier in my new place.  She manipulates situations to fit her needs but I can't imagine she does this with others or they would certainly see her for who she really is. And without the slightest exaggeration I can say without a doubt that people literally adore her. She has something about her that people trust and she has a way to draw people in that I cannot explain. I have no idea how but strangers have walked to us that have waited on us at coffee houses, restaurants,     random people and would see us at a bar at another time and say they loved her smile  and seeing her made them happy. Weird I know but it has happened.   I have no idea why I am even bothering with this except after this last contact I am really bothered by the entire coarse of events. Can anyone tell me what is wrong with her? Clearly there has to be some kind of condition that causes this type of behavior. Why did she make people believe so many negative things about me? Why does she continue to want my attention? Why does she lie to me and about our "friendship" (not that it exists any longer) to others?  I don't contact her, she always reaches out to me, sometimes months later why?  And yes sometimes I do miss her, we had a lot of fun together, I have wanted to believe she was a good person in the past but I can't handle the crazy and cannot forget that she is not a genuine person. There has to be a name for this type of person. And why don't other people see it? I think Shawn might have a clue but shawn is older, was alone for a while before they met and I can see a vulnerability that almost needs her in her life. Jeannie( the woman I am asking about) has a way of making you feel like there can be a thousand people in a room but when she talks to you, you are the only one there. You feel special and that is really hard to let go of when you are the one she says she loves.  I think that is why Shawn ignores so many things and chooses to believe everything is just as Jeannie says. Shawn by the way is a woman, As am I  




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