I am 65 years old and have quite a good life, but I am shy in situations such as women's groups and lack confidence in making friends. I can talk to people quite well but trying to take this a stage further, say, and invite the person over for coffee, I find that people react negatively to me and I end up feelng more rejected. As a child my mother was rejecting towards me before she died, when I was 10. Perhaps this is the reason - over the years some of this has improved but I wonder sometimes if I am deliberately isolating myself - or whether it's just my nature.
Where I lived before for 21 years, I made 2 friends although one has become rather indifferent towards me now. One friend was invited by a number of local women to coffee mornings at their houses, but I was almost never invited. Even quite near neighbours never asked me to join these, although they acted friendly enough when we met in the street etc.
Perhaps I come across as too needy and people draw back from me - also I know I don't have the energy for a lot of social interaction - but feel rejected when I am not included. Can't work it out!