Is the old cliché that people “marry their mother” really true? Am I only attracted to people who are manipulative , charismatic, and abusive? Am I only attracted to people who are so Narcissistic that they are incapable of admitting any fault whatsoever? People who immediately go to abusive psychological warfare whenever someone tries to prove them wrong but at the same time are so hypersensitive that the very act of constructive criticism is almost like a crucifixation of their soul. People who are so incapable of admitting guilt AND so incapable of handling constructive criticism that they have no insight and are stuck with the maturity of a 10 year old while at the same time becoming geniuses at redirection, manipulation, rationalizing, blaming and playing the role of the victim. People who are literally psychologically abusing the very people who financially and emotionally support them while at the same time playing the victim as if they are the ones being abused. I somehow have a business partner, a mother, a wife, and a son who fit this very characteristic to a level that is hard for me to even comprehend. They all have the work ethic of a spoiled trust fund baby. They all have had almost no career at all OR have the most basic cushy jobs imaginable yet complain about how hard they work and how tough there life is. They all live the easiest lives imaginable and then criticize me for working so hard when the only reason I have to work so hard is because none of them are pulling their weight. They all almost never take responsibility or accountability for anything despite plowing through people’s lives like a wrecking ball. They all almost never admit mistakes or apologize for some of the most unethical acts imaginable. They all drive people to the point of lunacy and then look shocked when people around them snap. They all love giving advice and are very opinionated despite having resumes which show almost no success or organization in anything they do with the exception of the simplest and routine exercises. They will literally walk into the business office of an experienced expert in almost any field and give the most ass backwards business proposal and do it in such a way that is demeaning to that expert and then when that expert proceeds to rationally dissect the flaws of the poorly prepared proposal they will snap with arrogance instead of trying to learn from the experienced professional. They all have issues with showing respect or appreciation with anyone who is in any position of authority. They all appear to judge others and degrade others despite having no real success stories that they can call their own. No success in careers, no success in higher level education, no success in business, no success with their families, no success in really close interpersonal relationships, and no success with long term love. I have been through about 2 years of therapy and then I took a break as it only made me more and more aware of the depth of the abuse I was surrounded by. I know I am partially at fault because I clearly inabled these behaviors but I have spent two years trying to get these people in therapy. Two years trying to show these people the lack of appreciation they have for me and the lack of insight they have for themselves. How does this happen?? Is there a pill that can cure this kind of behavior? Based on my descriptions how would you classify these behaviors??