How do I change my thinking someone is good when they are bad?

Question

When I date a man instead of seeing red I see purple and I feel something is missing in my tool box.  Without exception I have dated men who are nacissists, emotionally unavailable, selfish and who don't see me.  I need to change something in me but what is it and how do I do it?

Answer 1

Its called HALO EFFECT.... That's what you always base your judgement on, halo effect isa generalization from the perception of one prominent or salient characteristics, trait or personality attribute to an impression of the personality as a whole, which leads to inflated correlations between rated characteristics..you really need to look deeper beyond just his looks and check other attributes for your self and not assuming that because a guy is handsome for instance, that he will be humble, smart and all what not.